Reading one of the blogs I follow, the submissive male writer talked about how he was having coffee with a Domme, and she wanted him to buy her stuff. As he was and is really broke, he couldn't, or he would. She got upset and left.
While I have never been financially spoiled by a submissive man, I find that I can't really deny her the right of her attitude. Submissive men don't adore women in cheap shoes. They adore the ones in the 1000$ thigh-high boots, the perfect bodies in the expensive lingerie, the Bitches with designer handbags, the Fetish Queens in latex and leather. I have not yet seen a single site devoted to the worship of a woman in cheap sneakers and white cotton comfortably cut panties. The women they worship have perfectly manicured nails and lips painted to succulent redness.
I don't even know where you find a lipstick that will do such a thing.
Considering this, and the fact that women generally have a lower income than men, it starts making perfect sense that if you want to worship a Domme, you need to outfit her in a way that makes her worthy of worship. I did have one man do that to me - but he happened to have a fetish for autentic uniforms. I am now the owner of a used German police field overall, and an equally used (and patched) American combat uniform, both purchased very cheaply at eBay. He's still searching for an autentic belt to go with the police uniform. He gets off on that search, I think, as much or more as on seeing Me in the gear.
One submissive used to be the glamour slut, who wanted women with particular shoes and all. he really got all hot over high heels and elegant nails. Then he met Me, and discovered what a bad pair of shoes can do to My feet and back. Now he is the one who begs me take the hiking boots, because they look oh so much more fetishy than the heels. his whole understanding of what signals female power has changed, after he discovered how restrictive that whole fashion ideal was.
Occasionally men insist they want to spoil Me economically. Normally that means they want to treat Me to a drink, before they start begging for Me to come to the hotel room they have paid for. It's obvious that they want to use their money as a lure, give the promise of presents in the future rather than going to the expense of buying a ProDomme now. I find that as disgusting as the opposite, the women expecting to be given gifts just for breathing.
Now, do I have something I would do for a gift? Yeah, there are actually a few things. If a guy wants to buy Me a fur coat and some spectacular underwear, I'll go out on town with him wearing just that and the boots to match. Then we can have drinks around town while he knows what is not under the fur coat. I'd even throw in a manicure and pedicure for that, so he could have some nicely done hands and even feet to worship, if he has enough manners and looks that I want to be alone with him. Would I do it because the coat is worth a lot of money? No, I'd do it because that's a fantasy that's been with Me for so long, it's almost sad that I never have owned or even worn a fur coat. But in that fantasy the economic exchange is important: he has to buy it, because he has to desire this scene so much, he really wants to invest in it. Me getting it for Myself, then wearing it for somebody who didn't feel the thrill, that wouldn't really be the same.
Fetish gear in the scene is often very expensive. A lot of men who contact Me start out with asking what gear I have. I don't have much, because I don't want to risk cross contamination. If a guy wants something used on him, he should buy it and own it. If I really want to use something, I should buy it and give it to him, if it's something that can draw blood or get other body fluids all over it. I own one dildo for the use on submissives, I am pretty anal about it (haha), as I cover it with rubbers when in use, and cook it afterwards. Normally I give the used dildo to the guy after I have used it on him, but there was a period last year when that got both too expensive and too impractical. But a lot of men actully lose interest when they realise I don't come with a huge fetish wardrobe, I don't have a closet full of brand name heels, I don't need a car to transport my whip-collection, and I don't have a dungeon in the basement. The fantasies about the resources of Dominant Women assume a lot more in the field of economic outlay on the side of the woman than a pair of shoes. Seen on that background, I should start systematically stocking My toybag by asking for "tribute". It would be simply a taxation of their fantasies, so I would have a chance to live up to them.
I don't think I ever will though. I was taught that taking a man's money or gifts meant I owed him something. I don't want to owe anybody anything, ever.
2 comments:
Personally I find a woman who wears sneakers to be hotter than one in $1000 shoes. There's a confidence in someone who doesn't need to put on all that stuff to be sexy. In fact, naked is even better!!
If a submissive guy wants some special toys or clothes or...anything, then yes the guy should be willing to fork it over. Speaking as someone who would be happy just to be naked in the same room as a naked dominant woman....I don't see the need.
Whips, cuffs, floggers, latex skirts and all of that stuff is fine, but it's 1/1000th of the big picture.
A woman doesn't need all that to have me on my knees aching to please her.
Oh and if you know of a dominant woman who wears cheap sneakers and white cotton comfortably cut pants... please send her my info.
Seriously, please!!
I know those women! Some of them might even be looking for a partner. The problem is bringing A and b simultaneously to point X. Cheap sneakers and cotton panties Dommes rarely go to play and fetish parties. They don't even advertise on the websites. Some of them discuss on forums, but frequently under non-Dominant profiles, often even as males. Yep, makes it so much harder for the boys, but one may wonder why they feel the need to be so difficult to track, hmm?
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