The fear of Femdom

An interesting thing I experience online (and to a certain degree offline), is the fear of female submissives of Dominant Women. Not the bisexual or lesbian ones, no, not at all, but the straight female submissives. I have tried to figure out why.

I have some theories.

Women not living like them, and not sharing the same values (you prefer to kneel to a man? Ewwww, men are for beating and walking all over, not to serve.) are threatening, and I am an implied criticism of their lives through Mine. Not true of course, I would hate it if all the women in the world were Dominants. Then who should I Dominate? It's ok girls, stay on your knees, you look really sexy there!

Fear of losing their Dominant to My greater sexual attraction. After all, they are attracted to Dominant people, why shouldn't their Dom be? And for some of them this is a real concern: many men go into Dominance simply because it's a way to get some kink in their lives in a world where it's really, really hard to find a Domme. But if he is Dominant, don't worry. Then I won't be the least attractive. You see, He is like Me: He gets turned on by submission, not Dominance. To him, I am at best a companion in the quest for better ways to torture you, at worst a nasty woman who won't behave the way he thinks I should.

Jealousy. In most communities, there are a lot more submissive men than Dominant men, and generally a lot more men than women. This means that a lot of submissive men will be hanging around trying to impress the submissive women, just to get a taste of kink in female shape. And then a Dominatrix walks in, and they all disappear to throw themselves at Her feet. Of course that will be annoying. I can't do anything about that. It's like when the Master calls, and you have to stop teasing your subbie boy friends and attend him. It's what you want, really, the important thing in your life. Or you'd be a Domme, and if you were, the boys would never turn their back on you! At least not without being ordered to do so, while you prepare the whip.

I am sure there are a lot more reasons, and some of them quite personal. I am full of theories about this. But I have to keep them on a general level, because sometimes that animosity gets too much to bear, if I can't distance Myself from it this way. To be a Dominant Woman is still a provocation in many groups, not least among people who are deeply committed to male Dominance. It's unpleasant to go out and be snubbed by female submissives, glared at by female Dommes, hit on by male Doms who think scoring a Domme is a major powertrip, and swarmed by male submissives. And it's unpleasant to have the same thing happen in forums and discussion, which is a reason I often present Myself as a transgender fetishist, or a male horny net geek. Even the most leecherous ones get treated better than a Female Dominant does, in many communities. I know, I have been one of them more than once.